Do I go back to work? When is the “right” time? Am I ready? Are my kids ready? What do I want to get out of going back to work?
These, and many, many, more, were the questions I was asking myself on a daily basis. Colton had finished his surgeries for now, next one will be when he is 5 years old, we had settled in to our new home and I thought “now what?!”
I am going to be brutally honest, judge me all you want, in answering the questions above about why I decided to go back to work. I want to share my journey in hope to inspire a mom who wants to go back to work, but feels like they cant do it because you have been out of the game for too long… Ladies its like riding a bike, just hop on and pedal!!!
What did I want to get out of work? It was pretty simple to me, I wanted to make money again. Being a proud feminist, I had a very hard time not contributing to the household income. I was very lucky that my husbands income could support us both, but I had a very hard time with it. I was in sales when I left worked, making great money and loving my company and my job. I was good at my job and had worked really hard to get to where I was. I missed the competitive edge of sales, I missed the commission checks and seeing the fruit of my labor. BUT was I willing to give up my time with my boys for all of that?
The Gains: When I say I wanted to make money again, what I gained was contributing to my 401K and building up retirement so one day the Big Dog and I could sip coffee on the porch of our log cabin. I could contribute to the boys 529, which was a BIG one for me. I knew that with the money I could be making, I could be putting away money for the boys to go to whatever college they wanted and more than ANY Christmas or Birthday gifts, this was the best gift Mom could give them. I could get that feeling back after I closed a big deal and saw all my hard work pay off at work, interact with coworkers, have the ability to go to the bathroom with no one asking me to open a yogurt :0).
The Losses: I LOVED being with my boys and I had made some life long friends who were also stay at home moms, and I knew that I was going to miss all the adventures we had together, the rainy day snuggles, being there for all of their milestones. I will be honest, days were not always Pinterest activities and happiness. Days were long when no one was listening and I was cleaning up all DAY LONG.I would call them my “half projects” I had so many projects I could only half finish because someone was sick or woke up from a nap, or had mom duties to do and had to stop doing my projects.
No one would argue that I have always put my boys first, but I felt in my heart that I needed to make myself a priority and go back to where I had worked so hard to get to and that was IT sales, oh yeah one small issue, now that I wanted to go back to work, I had to find a job…